A few years ago, while attending a professional conference, I heard one of the speakers say, “lower your expectations”.  As many conferences often go, the tone of the event was way too serious and the phrase delivered a much-needed laugh!

After hearing this, it occurred to me that over the years I have heard a few clients utter this same phrase upon our first meeting but sound something like …

  • “Maybe I’m just supposed to be heavy. Every time I lose I gain it all back and then some.”
  • “I have never reached a healthy weight.”
  • “I have never been physically active for very long. Although I am faithful in the beginning.”
  • “It is what it is.”

It’s as though these individuals have resigned themselves to a “newly realized” fact of life through multiple failed attempts at losing weight.  I then respond with the question, “How can I help you if you have reached this conclusion?”

The response is typically a deafening silence, but a most interesting moment that helps the individual clarify their interest and goal(s) in working with me.  Without a doubt, reaching health and wellness goals is challenging.  A lot of hard work is required on most days of the week.  So, what I am about to share does not dismiss this obvious truth.  The following two questions may shed some light on why lowering your expectations is not a long-term strategy to health and wellness.

Question #1 to consider…

How many people in your life can you count on?  Do you regard yourself as one of those people?  If not, why not?  Now, no one is perfect including me, you, your spouse, your kids, or your best friend.  We all fail.  Sometimes at our best effort, we still fail.  I’m talking about being able to count on that someone most of the time.

Question #2 to consider…

Do you believe your goals and expectations are connected to your dreams?  If your expectations of and for yourself are not high, are you really living your dreams or simply living life?

The beauty of it all is you can set those expectations high and go after your dreams; or lower your expectations and simply live life and wonder what would have happened.  The choice is yours.  May you choose the path that is right for you and live without regret!